Mother’s Day: Grief and Joy

May 12, 2013 § 1 Comment

Today was a happy Mother’s Day. We had brunch at home, played together outside with Nathaniel and our dog Higgins, and I dabbled in oil painting while my guys napped. We all watched a movie together while I finished some knitting. The day was wonderful, especially on the heels of a huge birthday party for Nathaniel the day before.

Mother’s Day hasn’t always been a happy holiday. I cried through the holiday the last three years.
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The Toothfairy is coming to visit…again!

April 29, 2013 § Leave a comment

The Toothfairy is coming to visit!

April 8, 2013 § Leave a comment

Ben and I were talking on the way home from work today (we are lucky enough to get to carpool home together) and I was totally stressing about my to-do list. There is a ton of things to get done both personally and professionally and not enough hours to do it in (and yes, I completely forgot it was Monday). We pulled into our driveway and were greeted by our sweet boy riding his plastic motorcycle. Our sweet boy who was missing a tooth. Wait- he’s missing a tooth?!? My baby is growing up!!

Cue mom-guilt for being at work when the momentous occasion occurred.
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One of those days…

March 27, 2013 § 2 Comments


Today was one of those days. You know, the type where you can’t wait for them to be over??

Nathaniel was sick with a bad cold virus this morning and didn’t wake up until 8am. I call him my human alarm clock because I never have to set my phone to wake up. I am typically greeted around 0600 with, “Mama, Nathaniel wake up! And then manzi [water] please??” This unusual behavior of sleeping in then made me late in getting out the door because I woke up late also. I also needed to get a sick, tired, cranky Nathaniel settled before leaving.

Then this afternoon I broke down in tears at our office over the realization that the Menenbergs will soon be leaving Zambia.

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The Sacred Story of Nathaniel’s Life

March 21, 2013 § 3 Comments


Baby Nathaniel, June 2008

When first meeting someone, there are a number of people forward enough to ask what Nathaniel’s history is before his adoption. We do stick out as an interracial adoptive family so I can understand the curiosity. However, I guard his life story as a sacred treasure.

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The Adoption Transition to Parenting: Bed Sharing

March 19, 2013 § 4 Comments

Our first kid was 5 years old when we became parents. Obviously, this isn’t typical and so we had to do some not-so-typical parenting. Here is one of our experiences from transitioning to being parents:

Ben and I had initially talked about whether we would want to share our bed with our future child. Initially, we had the image of a baby. This then implies that you need to do night feedings, sleep training, worry about the safety of sharing bed together, and get the child used to sleeping in their own bed. Adoption an older child with special needs turned that idea upside down. « Read the rest of this entry »

Home from surgery!

February 14, 2013 § 1 Comment


Nathaniel is all done with his surgery! He came through it just fine and we are very thankful. Dr. L at Beit Cure hospital performed a gastroc recession to lengthen his tendon and prepare him for walking. The doctor said he wants to see his cast beat up when he comes back because he’s been active so much.

The medical care at the hospital was great. I was very impressed with the anesthetist and how he explained the procedure to me (without knowing I was a nurse!). He was great at managing Nathaniel’s pain too! He didn’t cry after surgery at all.

The nurses were good although they wouldn’t let Nathaniel eat after surgery even though he had bowel tones and was hungry (I checked, even though they didn’t). I told the nurse he should come sit with my cranky child if he wouldn’t let him eat anything. He relented and said water was OK. When he held that down ok, I took the liberty of advancing his diet and ended up sneaking him half a plate of nshima and chicken. Naughty Mama!

I also convinced the surgeon to discharge us today instead of tomorrow. We are glad to be back at home with Nurse Mama on duty. I do like having control, what can I say??

Nathaniel was a little celebrity at the hospital as many people remembered him from when he was small. We even got to meet his neurosurgeon and thank him for saving Nathaniel’s life.

Tonight, we are tired but very, very thankful for our sweet boy.

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